Phyllis
I want to post a picture of my mom today, because well she is just the most amazing guardian angel. I truly believe this mass they found on my breast is a blessing in disguise. I mean, I was on my way to looking into fertility, getting Pelvis And Breast MRI’s and going to freeze my eggs before this thing on my left breast put a damper on everything. But like I said, blessing.. maybe this was the moment, that if I took any longer in deciding whether or not to remove my breasts, could have been life changing. Ultimately I’m thankful, this all needed to be done and I was basically dragging my feet..
I want to share a bit about my support system. It’s not everyday people walk into your life and say “ I am NOT, and will not go anywhere!” I don’t want anyone to feel slighted by this blog post, as I said previously there are SO many people out there that would do anything for me and vice versa, even if we haven’t spoken in years. But I do want to highlight some people who have picked up some pieces from unhealthy, toxic, and one sided relationships and shown me good, authentic and genuine people really do exist. The other point I want to make is it’s not always the people you’ve known the longest, sometimes it just happens when you least expect it. My dad always told me he met his best friend Paul in his 40’s. So really those healthy relationships exist and can happen anytime, even if you are new to an area.
Everyone that’s come into my life has had their purpose. They have taught me lessons or shown me blessings. But Tucson, has been so much more to me than that, which ultimately came as such a surprise.
I met Kasey, whom is so similar to me- we are both loud and love telling stories, we are fun, and kind and mean well and best of all authentically ourselves and don’t care if people don’t like us:) . We are both authentic, love nutrition, and fitness, so no surprise we connected right away. Something Kasey may not know is my mom and I use to speak every morning driving to work. When Kasey and I connected she would call me all the time driving into work. It made me feel so good, that she thought of me in the mornings, I probably never explained that to her, but I know she is rooting me on and will read this ❤️I knew that this was going to be a life long friendship regardless of where I end up in my career and settle down. She has always put so much effort into our friendship especially when she has three kids, a job, her own hobbies and of course her own friends. But she has never been one to exclude me from things. She had wanted to introduce me to Emily, and at first Kasey wanted us all to work out together. But Emily didn’t respond LOL. She actually didn’t realize who Kasey was introducing her too, which is hysterical. But if you knew Emily this isn’t surprising haha... 🤪 in such a short amount of time roughly 6-7 months now of Emily and I working out together, doing our meal prep together, grocery shopping, we do some of my coupon banding together, trying new restaurants- we have had SO much fun. She made Tucson a home for me as I got to experience things here without doing it alone. We are at a very similar place in our lives where it is nice to go explore Arizona but not explore alone. She is basically one of the kindest most generous people I have ever met. The best part is her grandma at 95 years young is named Phyllis.. you don’t meet many Phyllis’ in life so basically we all got the goosies:) (aka goosebumps, but JLO calls them goosies) her family has literally welcomed me into their family with open arms. Her mom Ruth and Phyllis are truly earth angels as well. My mom is my guardian angel but the women I share about here they are considered earth angels that my mom placed so that I would have support going through all this. These women have been so proud of how I handled everything, minus the biopsy. I hadn’t shared my biopsy experience, but I will have two weeks off of work and plenty of time to share, but I went vasovagal and if Emily hadn’t already been on her way, I’m not sure I would have made it home that day. Thank you Emily and Kasey for being so proud, so supportive, so kind and so open to sharing your life with me. ❤️🌻
This is a funny story about how I met Cathie. So basically most of my friends are in healthcare and I won’t complain, because I have so many people to ask a bajillion questions or even skin/makeup/clothing/ hair questions haha. Oh and I’m basically a hypochondriac. Hahaha They have all lived here their whole lives and know everyone. Tucson is definitely a small big city where literally everyone knows or heard of everyone. Ok, enough squirrel and back to the story. Kasey is basically my go to with everyone here in Tucson, and she had mentioned once before she knew someone who did IV therapy. I love IV therapy. In Denver I use to go once a month to help with performance because I literally never drank enough water. I was feeling super fatigued with weather change and my first real summer in Arizona and I thought it might be time to find a place. I found a place and well let’s just say I got scammed. They took my 50$ deposit and never showed up. Then the person who owned it said he was a woman and then called again and said he was a different person. Long story short- I got scammed and NO IV and had to fight for my 50$ back!!! Moving forward, I call Kasey and ask for the number of the nurse she knows, and that was Cathie! Oh thank goodness. Cathie was real, and shows up with her super hero cape, and loaded me up with all the goods, but it was SOO much more than that. She came over and sat with me while I was getting the IV and it was just this instant connection. I couldn’t believe how fun, honest, kind and honestly, she reminded me of my mom. That funny, kind, but don’t mess with me (but also takes a lot to get me feisty) kind of a person. She even wanted to show up last minute and not even working because she felt bad for the situation some scam company had put me through. Of course I said no, please come when it’s only convenient for your family. So basically after this instant connection I called Kasey and said I think I found my new best friend! LOL. She just laughed... I said no really, I can’t believe how amazing cathie is and she’s so smart and loves her family so much, I was instantly drawn to her, and her intelligence and the way she treated me and her family. I am so glad to say that she is my friend, and when we went out to celebrate- she was the one who inspired me to write this blog and I literally can’t thank her enough!!! It has given me a lot of hope, a lot of faith that everything will go well, and ultimately just really felt like I’ve made some good decisions in getting to this place with feeling comfortable in having the surgeries. Cathie then introduced me to Allissia, whom I think I finally spelled her name right 😂😂 and that is Cathie’s niece. She immediately was like you two would hit it off. I am so happy that I have gotten to know her as we have a lot of commonalities and on top of that she is just hilarious, strong, independent and inspires me all the time. My tribe continues to grow and meet amazing people and I feel so blessed that in a year when I had nothing, I look back and I’m thankful for all the obstacles that led me to here!
Overall, I could say a million things about these ladies, and I’m not saying everything is roses and butterflies, what I’m saying is I was ready to give up. I literally wanted to quit, and everything has changed. There are great people in the world and we will probably meet a ton of them, it’s weeding through them until you find the true gems that aren’t part-time, convenience friends, and only call you when it works for them or those people that make plans and never show. I want the people that show up, that invest in me, because when you’re my friend I invest in you. Some great advice I got was be open to letting people in, but know when they don’t bring anything to table. You’d rather sit alone, then allow people to take a to go plate, and always leave you on empty. If you have ever read the book Start with People, it shares that there are two types of friendships. One is a broken wing and one is a growth friend. Try to be the growth friend as often as you possibly can and I swear your life will explode with greatness!! Not that we can’t have our moments of being the broken wing friend, but don’t stay down too long. I learned that lesson the hard way!
Xoxo,
Soulful sunflower 🌻❤️
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