What NOT to say to a cancer patient




 Hi everyone! It’s me, Soulful Sunflower🌻

I forgot to post this months ago. But I didn’t want to forget to post period! So here we are in posting retroactively! Xoxoxo 

Ive been MiA, well because I haven’t felt well and chemo was cancelled. 🥳🎉 yes, I needed the break but all this does is prolong everything. My poor body is like nahhh I am done! But here I am, gearing up for my next one. Just for a little education snippet: 


My white blood cells were 500. Causing me to be severely neutropenia: occurs when you have too few neutrophils, the Mayo Clinic states neutropenia is “A type of white blood cells. While all white blood cells help your body fight infections, neutrophils are important for fighting certain infections, especially those caused by bacteria.” 

My hemoglobin came down to 9.5:


Typical symptoms of low hemoglobin include:
  • weakness.
  • shortness of breath.
  • dizziness.
  • fast, irregular heartbeat.
  • pounding in the ears.
  • headache.
  • cold hands and feet.
  • pale or yellow skin.
So I’ve been feeling AWESOME! Lol

I went to yoga yesterday morning and the teacher said this: time heals all wounds- nahhh that’s BS! Time heals with Practice, Good Principles, and bravery.. I felt that... 

This blog is not intended to hurt feelings or punish or blame people! It is solely to educate :) XOXO and maybe make people chuckle !! 


First, I want to preface this as I have collected this from myself and other cancer patients and is not directed at anyone in particular. 

When people tell you they are fighting cancer, it is definitely best to not mention you know someone who died from cancer. Doesn't make us feel good inside.

There are a lot of physical changes when going through cancer treatment- bringing them up- is almost like duh.... we noticed them, they bother us, we didn’t want you to point them out, because they make us sad.


Seeing us doesn’t mean you need to cry. I promise we have cried enough for the both of us- please be the rock not the sponge! (Thank you Cathie!) 


Sugar will make your tumors grow. You must eat organic- have you ever sat in a chemo chair?? Eat to survive, eat to survive. 


Oh wow- will your lashes ever grow back?? Yes, they will, I’m already super sad about this- but thank you for the reminder that others have noticed. 


You should probably go on a diet... diet? Did I eat today?? LOL diet- maybe you should go on a diet! 


I am sure there are many more and if you are reading please share your comments and stories below! As I would love to be able to share with others what not to say! 



Love you all! 


-Soulful Sunflower- 🌻🌻



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